If I could write a letter to my younger self…
There is so much that I could tell you, that I wish you could know. But the one message that I want to send you above all it that it’s ok. Even if it doesn’t seem like it and nothing seems to be going your way, it really is ok.
You are going to go through some difficult things in your life, some that everyone experiences, like puberty, and some that will be personal and hard to deal with, but you can do it, even if it feels like the easiest option is to just give up, to give in. Don’t give up. Even if it seems like the answer, stick with it – the outcome will probably be something you never will have expected.
As you get older, you’ll feel inadequate, not good enough and like you don’t fit in. But don’t forget who your friends are. They will stick with you through it all. It’s ok to tell them that you’re having a bad day, that you are really struggling. They aren’t going to judge! They are there for you in the same way that you will be, and are, there for them. You’re not being a burden to others, there are people who truly care about you and want to help.
It’s ok to feel like you don’t fit in. You don’t have to be interested in that TV show, that band. You don’t have to wear that brand of clothing, or wear any make-up at all to have friends and people who love you. It’s good to be different – “It’s better to be weird than boring” – you don’t need to be a clone of someone else! Someone is probably loving you for the differences – for the person you are. Be YOU!
Take every opportunity you can, no matter how daunting or scary it may seem. Even if it goes wrong or isn’t what you wanted/expected, you will be able to to say that you did it, rather than regretting that you didn’t. You also never know what you could learn, who you will meet and what opportunities will come as a result of saying yes and going for it.